Building & Creating Intimacy — Once a month set a date and time with your lover and have “pillow talk” (be sure to get it on the calendar). Get into bed and have an intimate evening of discussion where you can talk openly with your partner. During this time, you can share your secrets, fantasies, fears, feelings of shame and sexuality. Be sure to set up a boundary, that whatever is shared during this time is confidential and it not to be brought up again later and used against each other in anger. This is also great for long distance lovers too, set up a date and get into bed and get on the phone and have some meaningful discussions regarding love and life. Keeping the lines of communication open and flowing is an especially important key factor to every successful relationship.